free to be me

Marriage fascinates me.

I love learning about marriage. Before I'm married. It's cool.

I’ve always thought of marriage as a beautiful representation of Jesus’ relationship with us.

{Think about it.}

When you marry someone, you become ONE with them. You and me become US.

Jesus died for us (individually). He bore our sins and so, we died too. We died with Him, as ONE person. When He resurrected, we did too. Now we are new creatures, we are set free from sin because of Jesus’ death, and Jesus is our pathway to the Father. We are His partners in life. We are conjoined with Him, and THROUGH Him we have attained freedom. It’s pretty beautiful.

It’s love.

Marriage is a reflection of Jesus’ relationship with us. Our primary relationship with Christ is the foundation. When we are walking with Christ, our relationship to our spouse starts to mirror our relationship with Christ. 

But maybe for me, or maybe for you, marriage isn't a part of your life right now. If you’re a teenager, it may be a LONG ways away. If you’re the same age as me, you have no idea when it will happen. But, before you jump into any relationship…

Consider a relationship step #2.

Consider a foundational relationship with Christ as step #1.

Read the word of God. Grow. Learn. Experience. Endure. Develop into who you’re called to be. And hey. “Seek first the Kingdom of God, and all of these things will be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33

A wise woman I know once told a group of eager-to-be-married college girls that marriage is a sweet gift, but if that’s all we are seeking in life, it’s nothing. “Honestly, there are bigger fish to fry.”

Ouch. It’s true.

To the girls:
Whether you are 12, or 22, stop seeking marriage. Stop worrying about it. Seek first your relationship with Christ. He has much to teach you. He has much for you to do. He also loves you and wants you to rest in Him. He's first. And then, He'll add those things unto you...and then...you grow, learn, and seek Christ with your spouse. As ONE. Beautiful.

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Discover the beautiful relationship that you have with Christ. It is the strong UNION and the primary picture for any marriage to model itself after.

Deepen your relationship with Him. He longs to root you in His Word. Grow. Make it your primary goal and rest in that. And then...

There are no more words because the rest of the story is unwritten.

Peace.